Have you said any good goodbyes lately?

We usually associate a goodbye with sadness, with loss… There is usually a distance in a goodbye; this distance will separate us from whatever or whomever we said goodbye to.

When you ask me, I’ve said goodbye way too many times. And that can be hard as well. When you are so sick and tired of always saying goodbye, you crave for some stability, continuity, familiarity, comfort, for friendships that will last…

And when you finally get it for a while, you get so used to the environment you’re in, you’re so used to the things you know and to the way things are done in this place/city/country. And the comfort you experience can make you complacent and yes, even lazy. It’s all so nice, it’s all so good…

But sometimes a goodbye is necessary in order to make room for something new to develop in our lives. A few years back we did the study “No Other Gods” by Kelly Minter. I love the section in the study that talks about “Good Goodbyes.” Kelly Minter writes,

“Certain things choke us, wound us, and bind us in ways that keep us from new hellos. They deserve a farewell. Still we cling because the painful familiar is often more comfortable than the foreign amazing…

Yes, there’s that awful parting, and there might even be an intermittent void; but how God fills the space when we make room for Him. How our good goodbyes can turn into unimaginably sweet and surprising hellos. The parting can feel terribly risky and lonely, but goodbyes aren’t so bad when new hellos can be faintly heard around the corner. Practice your wave…”

Sometimes it takes a lot more energy to let go, to say goodbye rather than to hang on to status quo. It takes courage to step out of your comfort zone and leave the familiar behind.

God only knows how many times I did not want to say goodbye even though I knew it was time. And sometimes God had to help me along in my decisions. He orchestrated events and circumstances that left me no other choice but to move on.

As Kelly said, “goodbyes aren’t so bad when new hellos can be faintly heard around the corner.” I better start practicing my wave…

Any good goodbyes in your life lately?

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