Do you ever catch yourself daydreaming about a life that you wish you had? Daydreaming a different job, a different city to live in or even a vacation you wish you could go on?
I’ve done it. I’m guilty! But here’s the thing: while I was daydreaming, life still happened. And the sad part is: I was not totally there. In my mind I would escape and “travel” somewhere else…
I remember vividly a conversation I had with a mom of one of my girls’ classmates. We were sitting on wooden bleachers watching yet another volleyball game. And I guess I complained to her that I was so tired of going to these games night after night. She turned to me and said: “Meggie, I decided I better enjoy this time of my life. The kids will be out of school in a few years, and it will be over with volleyball games.” What a positive attitude. She had 3 very active kids that were participating in all kinds of sports. Her husband wasn’t able to be at many games, and so she decided to make this time of her life a positive one.
This conversation changed my view. I will be forever grateful to her for sharing her opinion. Even though it did not get easier and I still sat through many, many more volleyball and basketball games on those hard bleachers, I learned to enjoy them and to live in the here and now.
I have applied this lesson to many other situations I had to face. Life didn’t turn out the way I wished or dreamed it would be. And so daydreaming had become an escape from life. But daydreaming robbed me of so much time I could have spent actually living! Yes LIVING! And living NOW. Not later, not in some fantasy land. No, here and now.
I still catch myself daydreaming now and then. But I am so aware of it now that I don’t like the time I’m wasting on it. I’m still waiting on a few dreams to hopefully come true some day. But until they do, I want to live. I want to live NOW. And this attitude has brought contentment. It has brought me to a place of peace.
Just today, as I was typing this post, I saw a quote on my Facebook feed that said the following:
I do not want to be this person who doesn’t see the open door. Even if it’s not the door I would have chosen for myself, I know that my God is always, always good to me. And when He opens a door for me and asks me to go through, I know it will be good. And that’s why I don’t want to waste time daydreaming of what could be. I want to LIVE NOW.