Now here is a book I would like to recommend.
When I decided to attend the fundraising gala I thought I better read the book he wrote before I hear him speak. The first half of the book is not an easy read. Sexual abuse by a priest and a police officer drove him to alcohol. He wasn’t able to keep a job, and his family couldn’t handle his drunken presence any more. After losing everything, he landed on the streets of Toronto.
“That was me, the guy begging money for a bottle of wine and a fifty-cent bed in a flophouse. I was thirty years away from being named an Officer of the Order of Canada, twenty years away from marriage and fatherhood, ten years away from earning my first million dollars, and a week away from deciding that I must change or die.” Frank O’Dea
When he spoke at the gala in April, he told this story:
While living on the streets he had met a store owner that was kind to him. This store owner would give him 5 dollars whenever Frank O’Dea would come in and clean up in the store. The radio was playing all day long. And while Frank O’Dea was working he would hear one phone number mentioned repeatedly, a hotline number if someone needed help.
One day Frank O’Dea had had enough of his life on the streets and he was determined to change. He wanted to call this number, but he had no money for the phone call. So he begged for a dime. All he needed and wanted was a dime. When he got the dime, he made the phone call.
In his speech, Frank O’Dea pointed out that we don’t always know what will happen to the money we give to a person in need. We don’t know if this person that is approaching us will use the money for alcohol, drugs or if he/she will use it to make that life-changing call and turn their life around.
This definitely taught me a lesson not to judge but to give. And to give without attitude. Just give. Leave it up the person to decide what they will do with the money. When I hand over the money it is their responsibility, not mine.
Frank O’Dea’s advice?
“When confused in life, simply do the next right thing in front of you. I always knew what the next right thing to do was, but there were times when I chose not to do it, and I did something else instead. That was always a mistake.”
What is the next right thing in front of me and you that we need to do?